How to Deal with Peer Pressure

Society is a complex thing, and there are so many stigmas, taboo topics and correct behaviors that exist. On top of that, there are also a multitude of ‘cool’ ways to act, especially within the teen and young adult communities. But, what makes it more complex is the fact that within those communities; individuals are at the age when they want to impress, want to be popular and want to fit in with the crowd. It is difficult at that age to be brave and confident enough to express your own personality, pursue your own interests and stick to your own values.

Alongside the pressure of society itself, there often comes a lot of pressure from your peers. Friends will often try to coax you into things that you may normally never associate yourself with, and it is common for those things to be against the law or unethical. So, teens and young adults may find themselves in tricky situations; for example, you may be at a party where you’re enjoying the music and friendly company, but then you find your friends smoking marijuana, and they will then keep on at you to try some yourself. With this comes a lot of fear, because they either feel like they need to do it to fit in and be ‘cool’, or they face rejection from their friendship group. But, it is very important that you just consider what you feel is right, what your values are and what the outcome will be.

If your friends are truly your friends, they will respect your decision, but if they don’t then it’s best to remove yourself from that situation. Often the easy option is to just give in to peer pressure, but if you stand by your values, morals and character then it will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life. Just practice saying ‘No, thanks’ and do it with confidence and a smile, that way they know that you’re not going to change your decision and you’re happy to not be a part of what they are doing. It is crucial to align yourself with like-minded people who possess similar values, interests, behaviours and preferences as yourself, as then peer pressure will not be a problem.

In fact, peer pressure can actually become more of a positive thing. If you have commendable friends, then they’ll pressure you constantly to work hard, to push yourself further and to pursue your goals and dreams. However, they’ll do it in a motivating, encouraging and inspiring way.

Ultimately, to deal with peer pressure it is best to be part of a social group that best suits your preferences and values and encourages you to express your own personality. But, if you ever find yourself in a situation where people are pressuring you to do something that you don’t want to do, then politely decline and walk away. Your happiness is way more important than fitting in!